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Hi everyone! Welcome to the A to Z of SexÒ. I’m Dr Lori Beth and I am your host. We are working our way through the erotic alphabet one letter at a time. Just a reminder this podcast deals with adult content, so if you don’t have total privacy, you might want to put on your headphones. Today the letter is O and O is for online sex.
Online sex can run the gamut from web cams where you pay for (mostly) women to strip for you or play with you, amateur web caming, online phone sex, pornography websites, written erotica and through online sexual communities.
Joining me tonight is Sharon Somers who created climaxconnection.com Climax connection is an online adult community website for people to find masturbation partners for phone sex or for people just seeking to enhance their masturbation experience by being able to listen to member contributed erotic audios or read their erotic short stories.
They have profile pages, chat rooms with free audio and video capabilities, a forum, erotic short stories and audios. Many people just hang out in the chat rooms just to have fun, relax and chat.
We started by talking about how chat rooms came to be and Sharon likened the site to an advanced version of the original chat rooms on AOL and Yahoo. I mentioned that before that we had bulletin boards and that Compuserve and Prodigy were early adopters of chat space.
Sharon explained that people create community and that some are only willing to interact on the site. They refuse to give out any details so that they can chat off site or phone sex. She highlighted the fact that many relationships are long term. She also mentioned that people are not terribly trusting which is why they don’t want to part with personal details.
Sharon talked about the many people who come to the site who are in relationships with partners who don’t share their sexual interests. She said that she is a phone sex operator by trade and started this site because the other sites she visited in between clients to relax didn’t have the full range of features that she has now put on this site.
We talked about the clients who come for phone sex versus chat and cam sex and highlighted the fact that most of the clients don’t want to watch a woman masturbate on camera. Many of them have very specific fantasies. She told me that she is asked to be a robot every few weeks and use a robot voice and that these clients have a full fantasy around how their ideal android looks. If she were to appear on cam it would interfere with the fantasy.
We spoke about the value of sex work for people who are not getting their needs met in their relationships. She told me that many of the men are in sexless marriages and most of her clientele are men. She shared that sometimes partners or wives call and abuse her or the other women and said that they are not trying to take these men away. They do this for the money they earn. I pointed out that it is common to target the other person instead of the spouse who is the one who had committed the betrayal.
We spoke about a wide variety of types of clients, chat play and the things Sharon enjoys about her work and in her off time. Sharon will join me on Sex Spoken Here for the series about sex work.
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