relationship energy

NRE (New Relationship Energy) Verses ERE

Hi everyone! Welcome to the A to Z of Sex with me, Dr Lori Beth Bisbey. I am a sex and intimacy coach and psychologist and I’ve spent the last 30 + years helping people to create hot and healthy sexual and intimate relationships. We are working our way through the erotic alphabet one letter at a time. Today the letter is N and N is for NRE (New Relationship Energy) as compared to ERE (Existing relationship Energy)

Joining me today to talk all about NRE and ERE is Zayna Ratty. Zayna is a Hypno-Psychotherapist specialising in G.S.R.D (Gender, Sexuality, Relationship Diversity), LGBTQIA+, Ethnicity, Consensual Non-Monogamy, Polyam and Alt based in Oxford at @zrtherapy.

An experienced trainer, charity chair and conference presenter on intersectionality and cultural identity, sexuality, gender and relationship diversity.
As a consultant, Zayna delivers bespoke consultancy and training services to corporations and charities.
Founder of the QTIPoC therapist network Zayna believes in working towards decolonising traditional therapy.

As a Stonewall PoC and Schools Role Model, she goes into educational settings and talks about the acceptance of diversity and combatting bullying.
Mental Health columnist for OxMag and Fyne Times, Zayna is also a multimedia domain contributor on Mental Health, LGBTQIA+ and PoC issues.

The energy of relationships changes at various points in the relationship. At the beginning when we are exploring a person and learning them, we often experience lots of excitement that is known as new relationship energy. This is contrasted with the type of energy experienced in long term relationships which is called existing relationship energy. Both contain forms of excitement – but they feel different and people run into difficulty when they expect the energy in a relationship to remain the same and the excitement levels to remain constant. We talk about how new relationship energy can revitalise an existing relationship.

You can find Zayna @zrtherapy.