I is for Inches

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Hi everyone! Welcome to the A to Z of Sex with me, Dr Lori Beth Bisbey. I am a sex and intimacy coach and psychologist and I’ve spent the last 30 + years helping people to create hot and healthy sexual and intimate relationships. We are working our way through the erotic alphabet one letter at a time. Today the letter is I and I is for Inches.

Does size count? So much is made of size in relation to sex. Men worry about penis size – are they big enough? What is average? Are they too big?. Women worry about the size and shape of their vulvas, they worry about the size of their bodies… Are they too big to climb on top of a man? But does size really matter?

Joining me today to talk all things size is Marla Stewart. Marla Stewart is an author, speaker, sexologist, sex and relationship coach and sex educator. She is a lecturer at Clayton State University and co-founder of the Sex Down South Conference and the Sexual Liberation Collective. While in graduate school she created Velvet Lips a sexuality education company to empower people of all ages to embrace, educate and enjoy their sexual lives. She has studied human sexuality for more than 18 years and has expert knowledge in a wide variety of subjects. She has published academic articles and continues to do sexuality research. She sits on the board for Spark Reproductive Justice Now and the Diverse Sexualities Research and Education Institute

We talk all about inches this week – how many inches is average? Do we think that the number of inches makes a difference? Is length or girth the key point? Why is there so much focus on size? Penis size isn’t the only measure. After all there is lots of talk around breast size too.

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