H is for Handjob

H is for Handjob

It seems that these days, hand jobs are overlooked.  When I began experimenting with sex as a teenager, hand jobs were a staple.  It was a way to bring a boy to orgasm without running the risk of diseases or pregnancy.  Oral sex was reserved for a boy you were more serious with unless one of two things were true: you were very oral and like to do it or you were slutty and knew that this would get a boy to go out with you.

The art of sexual stimulation by using your hands has fallen by the way side.   Men are less likely to teach their partners how they enjoy being stimulated.  Hand jobs are reserved for solo sexual experience.   To reverse this trend and bring back digital exploration, here are 7 things you need to know to provide an expert hand job.

  • Take some time to lightly stroke over the clothing, then slowly move to uncovering his penis and lightly stroke his penis. Use your fingers to explore texture.  Often the skin of the shaft is very soft and silky.  Feel around the base of the penis and move to feel the different skin texture around the scrotum.    Make sure that you explore all the penis and scrotum.  This is called hand job foreplay
  • Use lots of lubrication Experiment to find out what kind of lubrication you like best and what kind your partner likes best.  There is a real difference in feeling between oil based lubricants, gels, water based lubricants and creams.  Make sure you have plenty of lubricant available.  There is nothing worse than having your hand go dry when he is very close to orgasm.  He won’t want you to stop and then will find himself chafed.

  • Vary your strokes Variety makes for the best hand jobs. But be careful not to vary too much.  You need some sort of rhythm to push him over the top.
  • Use two hands in tandem This can make it easier to increase pressure and keep it up for longer
  • Stroke his balls, tickle his balls as you are stroking his penis The two together can increase the intensity until he cannot see straight.
  • Experiment with pressure, nails, covering the head of the penis, squeezing and stroking. Every man is different.  Experiment with your technique and see what gets the best response.  Ask him to show you how he likes to stroke himself when he is masturbating and imitate some of his technique.  It will be superhot to watch him and he will enjoy helping you to do it exactly like he likes it.  It can be fun to have him guide your hand through the strokes.

 

  • Consider his ass. Try circling a finger around his anus.  Or if you are daring, slide the tip of a well lubricated finger into his ass.  Some men will find this really difficult to accept but so many more will find this extremely hot.  For some men, a finger up the bum at the right time will bring on orgasm.  Others like more anal stimulation.

Remember practice makes perfect.  Take the time to revive this lost art and your man won’t forget it.    Email me with your questions or stories at drloribeth@atozofsex.com.

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