G is for Gangbang

G is for Gang Bang

A gang bang is defined as either ‘sexual intercourse forced upon one person by several others in quick succession’ or ‘sexual intercourse involving several people who select and change partners.’  The definition I am most familiar is when one person (usually a woman) is fucked by several people one after the other but in a consensual situation.

Gang bangs are often some of the most stigmatising activities a woman can take part in .  If you admit to wanting to be part of a gang bang, you will be given the designation as a dirty slut and you will be told how nasty you are by men and women.  In may settings,  wanting to be a the centre of a gang bang is seen as one step too far.

Gangbangs are not uncommon in the swingers community.   They rank high on women’s fantasy list for two seemingly contradictory reasons:

  • Being no more than a sex object for a group of people
  • Being the centre of attention, having all the people participating wanting to fuck her

Some women see objectification in the same way as being the focus of attention for a gangbang.  The focus for a gang bang is always on the central person.  In some cases, bukkake is an additional aspect of the sex and for some this is a particular fantasy.    Bukkake is when the gang bang is organised so that all the participants will ejaculate on the central person (be it man or woman).

 

In gangbangs, the other participants do not have sex with each other.  The focus remains on the central person and the waiting participants will often masturbate as they watch the person in the centre being fucked.      In some situations, participants will try to fill all available orifices and hands.  In others, people will take turns (and that can be called a train).

The gangbang is at the centre of many people’s sexual bucket list.  Despite this, it is often hard to bring to fruition.  It is not something that happens spontaneously as a rule.  The logistics can be quite difficult.     It is a good idea to have a person separate from the centre (otherwise known as the guest of honour) handle the logistics.  It is always good to have someone monitor to make sure that everyone is doing OK and obeying agreed rules including safe sex rules.

Another reason that some women want to do a gang bang is that it can be empowering.  It is the opportunity to let the slut out to play and can be both a physical and emotional challenge.    Some women love both challenges.  If you enjoy fucking, then a gang bang may well be high on the bucket list.

If you are partnered, this is one sexual activity you should discuss at length with your partner.  Some partners think that they will be fine, find the fantasy exciting and then when in the situation find it emotionally unbearable.  Others make it through the evening but afterwards find themselves with horrible thoughts – comparing themselves to other participants, believing that their partners prefer one of the members of the bang.  This can get emotionally extremely intense so it is worth talking about what you will do to resolve things if this should happen prior to the event even if you don’t believe for a minute there would be a problem.

Emotions can run high for the centre as well.  It must be clear that the centre has control and can say stop at any time.  It can become emotionally overwhelming during the bang or not until after the bang.  It is important to have time directly afterwards to reconnect with a partner and for after care.  If the centre has no partner, it is essential that she arrange someone to provide her with aftercare.

Pegging parties are gang bangs where a man is at the centre and is being fucked by multiple women who have strap on dicks.  The same rules apply to these parties.  There should be someone who does the logistics and someone who is in charge of making sure the participants are OK.    The same is true for same sex gang bangs.

The fantasy of being gang banged rarely involves condoms.    A significant part of the fantasy for many people is the feeling of the copious amounts of cum inside or on their bodies.  This is hard if you are following strict safe sex guidelines.  One way around this is to make sure that all of the participants are thoroughly tested.  There are risks to this as not all sexually transmitted diseases are easy to find in blood tests.  All sexual experiences carry risk so this is one the person must evaluate.

 

Is gang bang on your sexual bucket list?  Email me at drloribeth@atozofsex.com to tell me about the fantasy or comment on the blog.

 

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