Welcome to the A to Z of Sex® with me Dr Lori Beth Bisbey. We are working our way through the erotic alphabet one letter at a time. Today the letter is F and F is for Fuck.
The word fuck is defined first as to have sexual intercourse. The second definition is to destroy or ruin something. How is it that a word for one of the most incredibly beautiful amazing activities you can engage in is now synonymous with destruction? It is unclear but this began in the mid-nineteenth century. It appears that the word began to be used for sexual intercourse in the 1400s.
Joining me to talk all about fucking is Susan Bratton. Author of 27 books, including Sexual Soulmates, Relationship Magic, Dirty Talk and How To Be Instantly Hotter & Sexier; publisher of titles such as the Steamy Sex Ed® Video Collection, The Passion Patch and Revive Her Drive; television celebrity; YouTube star; Instagram influencer; spokesperson and advocate for sexual wellness, passionate lovemaking and bedroom communication skills, Susan Bratton is a phenomenon in the world of pleasure and connection.
For some couples, fucking is the entirety of sexual interaction as fuck is the sexual act that leads to procreation. For other couples, fucking is one of a range of choices on the sexual menu. Some people avoid choosing to fuck because they do not wish to use birth control and don’t want a pregnancy to happen. Others avoid it because they don’t enjoy fucking.
Did you know there are at least 119 positions for fucking? Most people tend to stick to one or two positions. Many people follow the ethos: If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it. If sex is going reasonably well then they will stick to the same routine. When it comes to sex, people can often be risk-averse. They worry that suggesting new things will lead to rejection, shaming or arguments. The assumption that is being made is that suggesting something new means that you are unhappy with what you are doing currently. In reality, what happens if you don’t embrace newness and change is boredom sets in and couples feel less excited by each other and sex tends to become routine and eventually they will have sex less.